Sources and inspirations behind Yes · No · Maybe
For transparency, here are some sources that informed the approach: simple tools to start the conversation, and more nuanced frameworks for communication and consent.
They are not prescriptions, just useful reference points if you want to go deeper.
If you only take one idea from these, it’s this: consent works best when it stays alive, not fixed.
Selected references
- Lillian Bailey (MFT) A clear approach to using a list as a starting point, then turning it into a gentle conversation.
- Scarleteen Inclusive, educational guidance on inventories and consent.
- Sexual Health Alliance A communication-first angle that centers emotional safety over performance.
- SheBop Practical and easy to start, with simple examples to open the discussion.
- Steffen Counseling Services A long-term relationship perspective, with tips for talking even when it feels awkward.
Each source differs in tone, but they converge on the same point: what matters is the conversation after the list.
If you are new to these topics, start with one simple idea and apply it in your own words. Complexity is not the goal.
Key takeaways
- A list opens the conversation; it does not settle it.
- Tone, pace, and context matter as much as the content itself.
- “Maybe” is an invitation to talk, not pressure to act.
If you want a practical starting point, pick one idea and try it gently. The point is not to be perfect, it is to be clear.
When you read a source, look for language that feels safe and human. That tone matters as much as the advice.
Continue gently
Two useful links to keep going at your pace.