For transparency, here are some sources that informed the approach: simple tools to start the conversation, and more nuanced frameworks for communication and consent.
They are not prescriptions, just useful reference points if you want to go deeper.
Selected references
Lillian Bailey (MFT)
A clear approach to using a list as a starting point, then turning it into a gentle conversation.
Read the resourceSexual Health Alliance
A communication-first angle that centers emotional safety over performance.
Read the resourceSteffen Counseling Services
A long-term relationship perspective, with tips for talking even when it feels awkward.
Read the resourceKey takeaways
- A list opens the conversation, it does not settle it.
- Tone, pace, and context matter as much as the content itself.
- “Maybe” is an invitation to talk, not pressure to act.