Definition
A Yes / No / Maybe list is a communication tool that helps partners express desires, boundaries, and curiosity without pressure.
Why This Method Exists
The goal is not to classify but to make conversation possible. The list creates a shared language for yes, no, or not yet, without forcing explanations.
What "Yes", "No", and "Maybe" Really Mean
- Yes is interest, not obligation
- No is a boundary, not rejection
- Maybe is curiosity, not uncertainty
This framing protects the relationship. It lets people say no without guilt and maybe without pressure.
Why This Structure Reduces Pressure
It separates private reflection from shared discussion. That makes it easier to be honest, to slow down, and to build trust over time.
When to Use a Yes / No / Maybe List
- At the start of a relationship to clarify expectations
- In a long-term relationship when desires change
- After a shift in context, distance, stress, or a new balance
Common Misconceptions
- It is a checklist of obligations
- It replaces conversation
- It is only for adventurous couples
Common Worries
It feels too binary? The "maybe" creates nuance. The list opens conversations; it does not close them.
It kills spontaneity? Clarity makes spontaneity safer because both people know what is ok or not.
It freezes things? You can revisit the list, change your mind, or move step by step without pressure.
Next steps
Use a Yes / No / Maybe list privately ->